have i been too selfish?

i’ve been a super compassionate and caring person ever since i was a kid. as a result of that, i got hurt and got taken advantage of throughout my adulthood. at first i just put up with it. when i got really fed up with it and decided to protect my own integrity. this yearContinue reading “have i been too selfish?”

suffering is a choice

we hear people say ‘happiness is a choice’ all the time. it’s true, little do we know, the opposite is also true. in today’s rant i’ll select 2 typical examples from my own life’s experiences to demonstrate what i mean by that. case study 1️⃣Crusty’s story: Crusty used to live with me at my placeContinue reading “suffering is a choice”

looking at my ex’ insta, i cried

even though we broke up in May, i still looked at their social media every now and then months after. every time i did that, the back of my head whispers: ‘don’t do that! we gotta break the thought and behavioral pattern and break free from them!’ i couldn’t do it at first, but sinceContinue reading “looking at my ex’ insta, i cried”

twin flame relationships = doom?

i completely stopped watching or reading about ‘twin flames’ because the authors of this broad topic only want your attention and views (and sometimes your money as well). they wish for you to force yourself to experience ‘twin flame’ troubles so that you keep coming back to them for more advice sessions. SO PLEASE BEContinue reading “twin flame relationships = doom?”

when parents split, don’t take sides

i know taking sides come naturally to us, been there, done that, really regretted it, so this time i really want you to do something counter-intuitive. before my parents had the divorce, they were both wonderful people. once i took sides of one, the other started to look more and more like a ‘demon’ (andContinue reading “when parents split, don’t take sides”

relationship = conscious choice?

yo vassup! i know this blog is gonna be a bit too spiritual. but i also know that y’all are ready for this! so LET’S GO! enlightened masters keep telling us that our relationship should be a conscious choice. for a long time i couldn’t figure out what they meant by that.. i thought ifContinue reading “relationship = conscious choice?”

the perks of growing up with grandparents

they’re very considerate of others’ needs. they taught me that you’re providing value to the world rather than taking from it. they take me to nature walks a lot and taught me that we are a part of nature and that we are nature, we are in perfect harmony with nature and that we should always look after the environment rather than hurting it.

so many breakups this year

and a lot of us blame COVID for it, and label this year as ‘the worst year ever’. well, fear not! i am here to explain why have there been so many breakups this year and i will use my own experience to help you cope with it as well if you’re going through theContinue reading “so many breakups this year”

why do we feel hurt in a relationship

because we expect them to behave EXACTLY according to an exaggerated version of our own moral standard — a moral standard perfection that we can’t even conform to ourselves. we subconsciously expect that person to behave perfectly, while completely ignore the fact that everyone has been through different experiences in life, and moral/ethical standards differContinue reading “why do we feel hurt in a relationship”