gaslighted? what to do

you might have a friend that seems really nice at first, but as soon as you try to improve, they become increasingly mean to you. let’s talk about this.

first of all, NEVER blame yourself for the disrespectful or appalling way they’re treating you. they’re mean to you because of their own insecurity, and it’s never your fault! the moment you realize this, the moment you stop blaming yourself for somebody else’s immaturity and irresponsible behavior, is when you’re emotionally free from them.

i’d say, as soon as you come across a person like that, or, say, as soon as this ‘friend’ of yours starts showing their true colors, lay low, and STAY AWAY, as far far far away as possible! being unable to let go of this outdated ‘friendship’ would only be destructive to your own life! the longer you wait till you drop this ‘friendship’, the more epic the ending would be (by ‘epic’ i mean ‘grand epically tragic’).

here are some tips for dealing with these people:

NEVER seek their approval! and NEVER, EVER, EVER react! they have made up their minds that no matter what you say, they would not listen or show any understanding — i know how frustrating it must be! but your frustration is exactly what they’re intentionally wanting and expecting — it’s part of their strategy — to trigger your deepest pain, letting you taste the bitterness of rejection — and then BAM, one day, you snap, and here’s their chance to play the victim and gaslight you:’ hey guys, look at this angry person! it’s always been their fault this whole time! they’ve always been this angry person all along! all i did was just being a friend for them! maybe i’ve said immature things that triggered their pain but it was all jokes — it’s their fault that they can’t take a joke very well!’ as soon as this conditioning starts, the labels such as ‘angry person’, ‘meanie’, ‘person who can’t take a joke’, will stick with you forever within that group of toxic friends.

this is why i say, NEVER, EVER, EVER react, no matter how hard it is, no matter how much you wanna defend yourself — nonononono! o nonononononono! BECAUSE IT’S A TRAP! by not reacting, you will never get the ‘crazy cat lady’ label. all the temporary ‘misunderstanding’ will blow over, as long as you don’t get them to label you and leave the branding mark on your forehead forever. i know it’s annoying, but this is really the universe testing your patience, resilience and character. by not reacting, you will be the victor! trust me!

ok now that stage one (big annoying circus) is over, what to do next? next, let go of your attachments to this friend. i know they might have done good things for you in the past, but right now, they see you as a threat, they see you as the person totally outta their league. if they can’t drag you back down, they will destroy you forever. if you show any signs of knowing this truth about them, their destruction upon your life will be unleashed sooner rather than later. but then you will question reality again — ‘why is his friends, aka my other friends, still love him so much? why is he still super nice to them? it must be ME that has problems, like they implied, right?’ o nonononono — like i said, it’s NEVER EVER your problem! well you might have problems in your life, but it’s CERTAINLY NOT THIS ONE. trust me! his friends are still nice to him, and the fact he’s still treating them with love and affection is EXACTLY their strategy — it makes gaslighting you MUCH EASIER! having minions backing him up speeds up and intensifies your suffering! also, his minions will continue to do his torturing work upon you even AFTER he’s tired of toying with you! DUDE YOU GOTTA TRUST ME! also, these people became his minions BECAUSE he knows these people are easier to manipulate than you are. these minions, even though innocent, are able to CAUSE YOU HUGE DAMAGE. they are not as opinionated as you are, therefore, they are much easier to be manipulated than you are — he knows EXACTLY who would stick with him till the end — he would even bribe them with money/gifts or increasing attention!

and remember this — you might still care about the minions that he has control over — you might even want to help dragging them outta that crap pot — DON’T! if some of them really care about you, they will root for you forever! they will actively get themselves outta that toxic group and stick to you. if not, EVEN BETTER! now you can now let go with absolutely no strings attached! coz if you start defending yourself, and explain why he’s toxic to his minions, they will look at you like ‘the crazy person’ as he just labeled you. they have MADE UP THEIR MINDS that they will follow toxic gaslighter till the end, CLEARLY they don’t deserve the unique, awesome and intelligent person that you are! it’s ALWAYS them that’s missing out, not you!

still think you’re the problem? o nonono please don’t. he’s only mean to YOU and not the others BECAUSE, like i said earlier, you either saw through their evil true nature, or you’ve improved a lot as a person and he sees you as a rival/threat/person outta his league. OR, he has done you wrong, but he’s too cowardly and irresponsible to own up to his mistakes, while public image still means more to him than any of his friends, he would do ANYTHING to prove that he’s the ‘awesome person’ that seems to be — by doing that, he has to trigger you and make you do things outta character, shame you in public, catch your angry moment, label you as ‘the angry one’, thus ‘proves’ his point — that you ‘are’ ‘indeed’ ‘that angry person’.

ok this person might seem super nice, generous and maybe even righteous on the outside to his friends, but deep down he’s ROTTEN! STAY AWAY NOW! SAVE YOUR OWN LIFE! YOU DESERVE MUCH BETTER! YOU DESERVE PEOPLE WHO ACCEPT WHO YOU REALLY ARE AND WOULD NEVER JUDGE YOU NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO! YOU DESERVE RESPECT! YOU DESERVE ALL THE ABUNDANCE AND LOVE FROM THE UNIVERSE!

ily, take care aye! you are so awesome you deserve the best friends this world can offer!

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Published by Daniel Crossing

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